Conflict and disputes are a natural part of every relationship. We are imperfect people and no two of us are alike. We should not therefore be surprised or shocked if we find disputes in the community of faith. Conflict can actually be constructive if the conflicting parties are united in their commitment to each other and to God. Over and above all our differences we must recognise the most basic principle of the faith: relationships are the most important thing in life. There is nothing more important than your relationship with God first and other people second. If you are a Christian, therefore, you must remember that the goal of conflict is not to win. It is to preserve and grow the relationship. Absence of conflict does not grow relationships. Conflict can be healthy, as the proverb says: “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another” (Proverbs 27:17). So if you are in dispute with another person, think about what your goal is in this dispute. Is it the right goal? Are you fighting for your pride? Are you putting the relationship first? If we do not prioritise this foundational principle then our faith is in vain; we will have lost the war by trying to win the wrong battles. It is no use being right in your opinions whilst being wrong in your life.
Seek God’s forgiveness for any wrong goals or priorities. In which relationships do you need to apply God’s word today?
Read 1 Corinthians 6:1-11
